Long gone are the days of being home alone and loathing for that certain special someone, or being so horny in bed that the only company you have is you and your hand. Fortunately, the internet came along and solved all of our problems. No more will you have to go and mingle in a nightclub to try and find someone, or fumble around in the dark at a party hoping to get a cute guy’s number. Gay Dating sites are here to save the day, and thank God they did. I think the day the internet became public, like-minded individuals decided instantly on the best way for people to meet and fuck. These sites are called “dating” sites, but we all know it’s where people find a local hookup or to swap nude selfies with. There’s no denying it, it’s how the world works nowadays.
Before smartphones became the norm, there was only a handful of well known gay dating sites, and then grindr came along and changed the whole scene. You had the power of your love life right there in your hand, and finding a hookup was as easy as loading up an app and searching for a guy you’re compatible with. Of course, mutual attraction works both ways, but you’d rather be spending your time chatting to hotties than not. Here is where Adam4Adam comes in. It’s one of the most well known, the safest platforms to connect with gay guys that you can come across. With 62,000 members, there is a lot of choice.
How do I join?
If you’re new to how these platforms work, well, let me inform you. I will go into great detail on how these platforms work. First of all, you can use your desktop device to signup, or you can download the app on your mobile device and then sign up that way. Whichever way you decide is best. If you’re drooling at the mouth and in a hurry to sign up and connect, then you can use Facebook, Google and Apple. However, signing up this way will reveal your real name and details to your hookups. If I was you, then I’d be creating an account manually, to keep things discreet and on your terms.
After the usual checks when signing up to a profile, it will ask you what your gender is, male, trans or couples. I believe there are a lot of guys on the site looking for threesomes, or group sex, so be mindful of that. There is also an option to view the G-Rated version of the site, but I reckon no one in the history of Adam4Adam has checked that. Let’s be real here, we are all here to find someone to fuck and see a lot of naked shit.
To verify your profile, you may be asked to upload some ID or a verification video to prove you’re an actual, real person. I don’t mind that, as on a lot of dating sites there are a ton of bots, and you can never be sure you’re actually talking to a person or a catfish. I’d rather have peace of mind knowing the person I’m speaking to is actually the person on the picture. Safety is also key on this site, so knowing they are a legitimate member gives me a little peace of mind. Once signed up, your account is now a free version, you can upgrade or keep it free. I will list some of the benefits below of the different accounts.
What are the differences between free and VIP accounts?
Whilst the free account is very basic, it still enables you to experience the site and get what you want, which is a fuck-date. However, it has some limitations compared to VIP, and if you like the site you may decide to upgrade. However, the free account serves its purpose by itself. You can search for profiles, save up to 200 conversations, can send and receive messages from users, can upload three public photos, but you can only view 20 profiles per day.
However, with the VIP you have a lot more features. You can do everything that the free account does, plus have no limits with the profiles and messages. Furthermore, you also get priority placement in search results, have no ads spoiling your chatting session and can access the mobile version of the site. The VIP subscription cost depends on the duration of the subscription. The longer the subscription, the lower the monthly cost. It’s important to factor in that VIP accounts auto-renew, which means that your sub will be automatically renewed at the end of each billing cycle. You can of course cancel your subscription at any time, but the site is relying on people forgetting to cancel and then rolling over the cost, like most membership sites.
In terms of pricing, the VIP package offers several subscription options, including:
1 month for $10.00
3 months for $25.00 ($8.33/month)
6 months for $45.00 ($7.50/month)
1 year for $75.00 ($6.25/month)
As you can see, signing up for a year saves you a bit of cash. However, I’d recommend signing up for a monthly package if you really like the site, and you can keep it going on a monthly basis. You may find you find a better platform in the future, or you’ve exhausted all the available guys in your area.
Always use your best photos
You can only upload a select few photos on your profile, so you need to make them count. I would recommend always leading with your good side, whichever one that is. No one likes seeing a selfie showing your double chin and definitely don’t use the front facing camera, that has to be my nemesis. The amount of time I’ve seen myself on that and thought, “I don’t really look like that, do I?”.
You can fill out your profile to great detail. Everything from if you have been vaccinated, if you smoke. I’m surprised there isn’t a section on what your shoe size is, but if you wanted to tell people that, you could specify it manually. Make sure not to lie on your profile, as nowadays people are very resourceful and a lot of these dating pro’s can sniff out a liar very quickly and easily.
How do I find the top talent?
The site works like many others, the app or website finds your location and can pinpoint guys to you with great accuracy. You may find hundreds or a handful of profiles within a few miles of you, depending on where you live, of course. I always find it crazy at how many people near me are signed up to online dating, the people you walk by on a daily basis could be a member of these sites. I remember one time seeing a guy that I knew lived near me, and I found that very difficult to message. In case they didn’t respond, and then we’d have that awkward moment if we ever crossed paths in the future. It’s a lot easier to message complete strangers, it makes possible rejection a lot easier.
The guys who have paid for VIP will get priority placement, and they are usually not always the best. There is a feature called the wall, which shows the latest talent on offer. This isn’t the same as being featured, if you change your profile pictures then you may end up on here yourself and there is no really way to opt out of it. If you find a guy you like, you can follow them or like the profile to grab their attention. You can also comment on pictures if you prefer being upfront about things.
There is a match feature which is common on sites like these. The algorithm analyses your own profile and then matches you with other people they feel like. This isn’t always perfect, and you can swipe left or right to accept or reject. I was matched up with some people, and when I clicked further I found nothing in common, so I have a feeling this might be a random matchup.
The popular guys are obviously at the top for a reason. You can try your best at reaching them, but they are popular for a reason and may be in high demand. They may have used all their available credits replying to the masses amount of messages from others, so don’t be disheartened if they don’t get back to you. I found a lot of the guys there, only had pictures of their bodies which is a bit shallow, but this is the dating world after all.
If you have the balls, you can call or video chat your matches!
If you’re bored with chatting with a guy via text, and let’s be honest, they can get pretty mundane. Rather than handing out your personal cell phone or skype details, adam4adam has a pretty cool cam feature.
Upon joining, you are blessed with 250 audio minutes and 100 video minutes for free, isn’t that nice of them. After you blew through the credits, you can get a 7 day trial with unlimited calls that only costs a singular dollar. Of course, when this package ends, you will then be billed the normal rate. For the $10 a month package, you get 5000 minutes of audio and video calls, which isn’t bad at all.
Speaking of live cams, they have a decent selection of live cam models. Nothing like chaturbate etc, but still not bad for a dating site. The models come from all walks of life, most of them don’t even speak English, but the universal language of love helps. There are several hundred online at any one time and to get access to this, you need to verify your account and get the free credits.
My mailbox was packed!
Okay so I’m not the best looking guy around, but after being a member for only a day I was inundated with messages. Whether I was victim to a brutal and cruel prank, then I have no idea why I woke up to around 10 messages from fairly decent looking guys. I didn’t realise the guys in my area were this thirsty, of course this gave me great encouragement and confidence to strike up conversations with other members. The sceptical nature of me thought that these guys may have been fake or bots to encourage people to interact, but as you have to verify to signup, then maybe not, and I’m secretly a god.
I found that every time I received a message or any sort of profile notification, I was sent an email. Being the stud that I am, these all added up, and I was receiving around 10–20 emails per day. I found a setting in the profile and turned them off, but it took a lot of digging. Make sure you turn these off, especially if spam emails annoy you. However, if you like the excitement of seeing a new message notification in your inbox, by all means keep them on.
They have a large selection of Movies!
If your dating life is going through a purple patch, then they have a generous selection of adult movies for you to enjoy. They pretty much sell full-length movies from your favourite studios like nextdoorstudios, cocky boys and titanmen. They also have quite the niche selection from lesser known studios, so when the messages have dried up, you can keep your mind and cock occupied by feasting on the movies. These movies cost of course, you get a few free previews and once you’ve registered your credit card to buy them, you get a very generous thirty minutes of movie footage completely free. That’s usually more than enough time for me to finish the deed. Best of all, you won’t be charged until you actually purchase one of the movies, and by then post nut clarity has probably set in.
They have a sex shop with Undies…
I have heard of brands selling hats and mugs, but never someone who sells undies. Be warned, they aren’t used undies though if that is your thing. I was expecting some cheap tatty undies with the logo on, but was quite surprised at how good they look. They come in a variety of sizes, so no one is left out. They also sell jockstraps, T-shirts, vests amongst others. Furthermore, they seem very popular judging by the 5-star reviews they have got, although I can’t imagine wearing any of them in public. That would advertise that I’m not a dating site.
They sell a variety of sex toys as well if you want to spice up your life in the bedroom. My favourite is a sex-swing, although I have a small understanding of how they work, I don’t think my ceiling could take the weight of me and one other person hanging from it. They have a large selection of dildos, and when I say large, I mean it. If you also spend more than 50 dollars on an item, you get a free item. At the time of writing this, it was a nice thick butt plug.
The site has surpassed my expectations
When I signed up to an online dating platform, I was not expecting it to be this detailed. I was blown away by the facilities they have on show. Toys, Undies, Video Chat, Merch and that doesn’t even include all the hot men on offer. It is free to sign-up and takes just a few minutes, and I can highly recommend doing that. Even if you don’t find who you are looking for, surely you’re a little bit curious to see who from your area is also signed up? I know I was and was pleasantly surprised, or should I say shocked?